Quick Notes

Scroll down until you find your fitted Flow type. In the completed version, you will be directed only to your unique type. In this Beta version, all are available for view. 

Please note that there are healthy and unhealthy presentations to MOST of the types which means that you may not connect with all of the trait presentations described. 

Synergy flow type

• Healthiest and most stable Flow™ type!
• Values fairness and equality in relationships
• Often have enough reserves of energy to contribute more for a brief period of time until their partner is able to reciprocate.
• Can be flexible to changing plans or tasks (flexibility is necessary for the eb and flow of synergistic relationships)
• Interdependency. There are times when you should prioritize self and other times to prioritize others
• Tends not to ‘keep score’ of singular contributions because they trust that they will give back to them soon
• Currency of the relationship is viewed as “effort put in” which allows for energy attempts to feel fulfilling even if they don’t fully resonate with the receiver. 
• Experience stability in the trust and fulfillment of the net relationship
• The most stable and sustainable Flow™ dynamic is Synergy Type with Synergy Type

Stream FLOW TYPE

• Sometimes feels a “need to be needed”
• In unhealthy presentation, Stream Types can feel insecure in a relationship that has reciprocity, as the absence of codependency feeds insecurity and fear
• Over-functioner in relationships; imbalance can be a source of conflict
• People-pleaser
• Can be shy at times, tendency to try and “go with the flow” rather than speak up for what they want. 
• Often Type A personality (task-focused, structured, intense, can be rigid)
• Often re-energizes as an introvert but can present with extroverted tendencies
• Vulnerability toward eating disorders (body dysmorphia, disordered thinking)
• Tendency toward Anxious energy (hyper-fixated, over-activity and over-functioning)
• Higher probability of presenting with anxiety
• Tends to present with a very good work ethic. Works hard in life to feel special (may present professionally, relationally, recreationally)
• Attracts Sponge Type or Surge Type

Surge FLOW TYPE

• Tends to have more superficial relationships (unhealthy presentation) OR small quantity of genuine relationships (healthy presentation) It's difficult for most to repeatedly accept negative outbursts or, if giving in positive surge, like infrequent grand gestures, the duration of time between the surges is too long for some to keep committing
• Most common in those who speak through rare, but extravagant, grand gestures
• Has difficulty with managing, articulating and releasing emotion 
• Activities of fulfillment are usually passive and emotion-avoidant
• Often accompanied by an awareness of unhealthy tendencies and a desire to change
• Has been called “explosive”, “unpredictable”, “reactive” 
• Aligns with stonewalling in the flat-energy periods
• Like Sympathy Type, vulnerability toward Depressive energy (heavy, low, minimal, slow energy that requires storing before an exertion)
• Healthy presentation appears reserved with moments of grand expressions for their partner. Unhealthy presentation appears as a progressive building up of negative energy followed by an emotional explosion. 
• Neglect of self-care (physical, mental and emotional health)
• Magnetizes to Sympathy Type or Stream Type

SYMPATHY FLOW TYPE

• Often has a low view of self, which they use to justify their over functioning in relationships
• Independent and autonomous in managing their own life responsibilities, does not ask others for help to avoid feeling burdensome
• “Pushover”
• Frequently feels lonely, even if not physically alone
• Often non-confrontational with others. Will choose peacekeeping over resolution if it means avoiding confrontation
• People-pleaser
• Often identifies as an introvert
• Tendency to suffer from addiction to substances
• Likely suffered abuse or neglect as a child
• Prioritizes others' wants or needs, how they make decisions, what responsibilities they take on
• Like Surge Type, vulnerability toward Depressive energy (heavy, low, minimal, slow)
• Attracts Sponge Type or Surge Type

SPONGE FLOW TYPE

• Are often told they are “too needy”, “high-maintenance” or “exhausting”
• Can have really intense relationships but they tend to burn out quickly because of their abundance of energetic needs. 
• Like Stream, tendency toward more Anxious energy (frenetic, active, "bouncey")
• Selfish behaviors, justification or rationalization of the imbalance in their relationships. 
• Enjoys being seen and receiving attention from others
• Can have narcisistic traits / performative when around others which leads them to create a self-spotlight of unilateral energy lines
• Doesn’t differentiate negative attention from positive attention
• Sometimes seen as the “life of the party”
• Often identifies as an extrovert
• Similar to Stream type in this respect, Sponge types can sometimes seek out a partner in need. Healthily, this dynamic can present as a Quid Pro Quo, providing the Sponge partner to receive consistent stream of energy while providing a place of security and consistency for their counterpart. 
• Healthy presentation appears as fun to be around, playful, and humorous
• High probability of presenting with ADHD
• Prioritizes self wants or needs, how to make decisions, what tasks to take on
• Magnetizes to Sympathy Type or Stream Type

​SELF-GENERATING FLOW TYPE

• Often involved in philanthropy OR deeply invested in a personal hobby 
• Can find it difficult to empathize with a partner who needs frequent interaction and energy exchange for fulfillment (sponge). The incompatibility can be a source of tension
• Can be intensely creative (self-generation requires a colorful perspective and visualizations of abstract thoughts to onset their own energy from an experience)
• Can be content being by self or being with others
• Can have a bit of manic energy
• Could have counter dependent characteristics that have led to them discovering ways of self-generation as an adaptive mechanism not to depend / trust other people. 
• Protected from intimacy depth just as much as they are protected from pain depth
• Their contentment with self can sometimes feel dismissive for their partner who may perceive their own value as low in the relationship
• Ex. Enjoys giving back to others (even anonymously) because it makes them feel good, Compersion (feeling joy just seeing you partner experiencing joy)
• Lowest conflict dynamic is Self-generating Type with Self-generating Type
• Highest conflict dynamic is Self-generating Type and Sponge Type