Visualization for Empaths

March 3, 2018

emotional​ defenses

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These built-in protective shields become problematic when they stay out of habit rather than necessity.
Some may never have created an adaptive mechanism and feel overwhelmed
absorb other people’s negativity or emotion and need to build up their emotional boundary
VITAL

Emotional Boundary Exercises


Example 1:
 
Example 2:  
For those who have developed 
too rigid of a boundary with others and want to break down those bricks
 
to connect again, reflect on people or environments that you can rationally identify as “safe”. 

Example 3:  
Imagine stepping through this removed space of your environment and into open air. Join the world. Your brain has gotten so good at compartmentalizing that making a choice to join the present moment in your mental and emotional entirety will likely feel very uncomfortable. When you consciously bring down your emotional shield, do you feel lost, vulnerable or naked? The discomfort is temporary. The more you practice this skill and gain control, the associated anxiety of the unfamiliar will dissipate.
As with most concepts in the therapy and coaching, we seek healthy moderation. Having an ability to turn on those protective walls in a future threatening situation can be a useful tool in keeping you safe. But we also don't want it to be turned on all the time. Having control of the emotional fluidity between you and your outside social environment can help you connect on a deeper level with those you care for.
 
Moderation can help us remain safe while still prioritizing our quality of life.
Good luck in your practice of healthy emotional boundaries!
 

DR. STEPHANIE P. BATHURST, PH.D., LCMFT, CKCT, CPLC

Board Certified Clinical Sexologist
​Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

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