What do you Need? What do you Want?

Every human is a remarkable biological creature. You are remarkable. Our evolution has been heavily based in our ability to communicate and, from this, build strong communities.

You are not alone in the hunt for a more streamlined process of communication with your partner(s)… to feel fulfilled within your relationship and have confidence that you can provide fulfillment to them.

Simplify things. Stop over-intellectualizing. Stop hyper-analyzing. We want to feel appreciated. We need to feel loved. It's that basic.

Need vs. want

First, you have to self-process. We can't expect our partner to help us with our needs or wants if we aren't able to explicitly state them ourselves. When you can clearly identify if your request is a Need or a Want , you are ready to request a full-attention sit-down with your partner.

** Definitions below **

Tips for Good flow, low miscommunication

Aim for concise statements . The more wordy you are, the more opportunities for miscommunication and sensitivity triggers.
Try to frame your request (and notice I say request rather than demand) through an “I” perspective rather than a “You” perspective . This will reduce risk of defensiveness.
Try saying, “I am feeling really insecure right now and in need of a hug. Can I count on you for this support?” instead of, “You need to give me a hug right now; can’t you see that I am upset?”.